LESSONS FROM A WEDDING

How appropriate othat I can write about the wedding one last time on Valentine's Day. The lovebirds are married...yipeee! ... and on their honeymoon. I, on the other hand am experiencing severe symptoms of wedding withdrawl!

Michelle VandenBosch

Let me just say straight up that Michelle's and Jordan's wedding was everything and more than we expected. In fact, i can honestly say, i was not sure what to expect, except that 170 people were coming to witness a 20 minute ceremony, cocktails, and reception in the Great Hall at the National Gallery of Canada.

.... 12 lessons...

1. ... champagne, either straight up or as a mimosa, is an excellent nerve calmer if consumed in small doses throughout the day accompanied by a wee toast....Father of the Bride or FOB should be at the ready to pop the cork(s)

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2. ... the Father of the Bride MUST stay out of the master bedroom and bathroom when the Mother of the Bride is primping and preening ....do not ask why....just accept it!

3 .... when 4 Bridesmaids, one Bride and a Mother of the Bride are getting ready, there will be untidiness, clutter, and champagne flutes scattered throughout the house ...you must learn to ignore,  the mess will still be there tomorrow for you to tidy up (wether you are napping and/or suffering from severe wedding withdrawl)

4. ...the photographer "KNOWS WHAT SHE IS DOING...SHE IS A PROFESSIONAL" will be repeated to the FOB several times before he gets it...enough said!

Barbara Ann Studios

5....some of you may know this already.....when you are dressed in your wedding attire and feel the need to visit the ladies room, after drinking the afore mentioned champagne, or because your tummy is excited, hold off as long as possible.  There will be fewer repeat visits and far less struggling with the SPANX etc.

6.... when walking your baby down the aisle... do not be surprised if you cry... do not be surprised if you do not cry. I almost lost it, but decided my eyelash extensions might not survive the salt onslaught , so I decided to do the closed mouthed, bite your tongue, 'I'm enjoying what I'm doing' look.  Dreading those pics!

7.....choose your MC wisely. We did!  Jeff, a close family friend with many connections to many guests, made it his mission to know personally a few tidbits about every single person he introduced....he was cool, calm, funny and possibly hungry, as he was on duty all through our fabulous dinner.

I promise to feed you this weekend Jeff.

8.... If the speeches are fabulous, and go waaaaaaay over the alloted time....move on. Skip the traditional Father /Daughter dance ....forgo the cake cutting photo...and who really cares about the garter toss.

Move on to the PARTAY and start the dancing music. This happened and I can honestly say, not one guest questioned those 'missing' elements.

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Father of the bride

Mother of the bride

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Father of the Groom 

Mother of the Groom

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Toast to the Bride 

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Toast to the Goom 

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Maid of Honour (sister)

Bridesmaid (sister)

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FLASH MOB PERFORMANCE

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Bridesmaids 

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Groomsmen

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Father / Daughter Dance

cake cutting photo opp

garter toss

9.... THE BAR.  After the ceremony, we had a cocktail/open bar. At dinner we had servers pour only red and white wine....no bar. At the reception, we served wine, beer, pop, scotch..and it was a cash bar for mixed drinks. This was recommended to us by the vendor as a way to cut back on guests who might be over-served....a wedding faux pas. It worked.

10... do not wear your comfortable (they were for the first 6 hrs) Christian Louboutin shoes for 12 solid hours. I REPEAT....

Christian Louboutin

11.....yes, things will not go 100% according to plan...it happens....it's out of your control... do not involve the Bride and Groom with these details. Move on, most of your guests will neither know, nor care.

12....THIS IS A BIGGY.....your wedding will only be as successful as the guests you invite. We invited fabulous, caring, fun loving, appreciate guests to the wedding. I cannot tell you how many compliments our guests .... gave to our guests.  Even the DJ did not want to shut 'er down.

That's it...that's all folks. I'm hoping that the 'severe wedding withdrawl' symptoms will subside quickly. I have a few clients who need my assistance and I'm also involved in.....

EXTREME MAKEOVER KINDNESS EDITION 2012

  reveal February 25th

The Royal Inspiration Awards Gala

 coming up on March 2nd...  two more raffle tickets to sell

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